After a long time, I met my
doctor friend of 15 years. He is getting married soon, so obviously it also
became our topic of discussion. When I asked him about the girl, he told me she
is also a doctor. And? And she is a good girl. And? Well, I hope she would have
the same passions that I do, but I don’t know what she likes.
I knew someday this good friend
of mine would end up marrying a doctor girl. His parents always wanted that, as
if he is going to bring home a clinic, not a wife. Or perhaps, two doctors will
give birth to a doctor baby. Or perhaps, they will have more topics to discuss
at home, like new medicines, new procedures, new cases, new patients. Life
would be fun.
Now before I proceed further, I
want to make it clear that through this post I have no intentions of hurting my
friend, because I can’t even think of doing that.
Two doctors, two lawyers, two techies,
two entrepreneurs, two any for that matter, can make a happy couple only if
they share the same passions, not professionally, but personally. Don’t marry a
doctor only to open a clinic, don’t marry a lawyer only to start a law firm,
don’t marry a techie only to make an app.
Marry someone only to make a
life.
And ya, life is not about making
babies. So don’t think that your decision to marry someone because he or she
belongs to your profession would have a very positive impact on your child, or
it would give an extra edge to your child. In fact, it would only give him or
her the extra tension to perform better, to become like ‘daddy and mommy.’
Say for example, “Oh of course
beta, you have to score well in Biology because your parents are doctors...” or
“Beta, you have to act well because both your parents are actors...”
There are innumerable examples of
children going wrong because their parents are passing them a so-called legacy.
Look at your TV screens and you will find a live example in the form of Rahul
Gandhi. Perhaps he wouldn’t have been a pappu
politician if his father, grandmother, great-grandfather had not been in
politics. He got that extra tension to carry on the legacy of being a Gandhi. He
lost what could have been a great life in his struggle to become a great
politician.
Taking the same example, look at
Narendra Modi and Arvind Kejriwal who both have become great politicians
without that ‘extra edge.’
Abhishek Bachchan, Siddharth
Mallya, Tushar Kapoor, Amit Kumar (Kishore Kumar’s son) are all living examples
of successful parents’ unsuccessful children because they were born with that
extra tension to pursue daddy’s and mommy’s profession.
Having said all this here, I wish
my dear friend gets to live his life on his own terms, I wish he has a kickass
married life and doesn’t end up talking medicine all the time, and I also wish
his children become something that they really want to be.
And ya friend, don’t open your
clinic to make it a burden on your children’s shoulders, and hire doctors, not
your wife at your clinic.
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